My daughter Taryn and I are blessed to call Laura McKowen a dear friend. Laura is a beautiful writer and a right lovely human being.
Her bookWe Are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Lifefocuses quite specifically on sobriety from alcohol, but it is applicable to all sorts of sobriety and recovery. One of the things about recovery that Laura absolutely nails is embodied in her statement "One stranger who understands your experience exactly will do for you what hundreds of close friends and family who don't understand cannot." That is the wicked truth.
We all come to the realization, sooner or later, that those we love don't get it. They don't get what caused us to blow up our lives (quietly or spectacularly), and they don't get the importance of what we are doing to recover from the blowup.
And that's okay. Here's the thing: It's not their job to get our recovery.
They have their own shit to deal with. We are better off seeking support from the professionals—and by professionals, I also mean people with lived expertise in recovery.