Chaos still shows up in our lives, even when we've stopped creating it ourselves. We don't have to attach to other people's chaos.
We can remove ourselves, mentally and physically. We stop, breathe, and ask ourselves, "What is one thing I can do to disengage from the chaos and return to comfort?" Sometimes we find our comfort in a cup of tea, or in meditation or yoga.
We might go for a walk or a run, or we might attend a meeting online or in person. At other times, a person or a pet is the comfort we are seeking to help escape the chaos.
We hug our little people or our pups, or we reach out to someone who we know will be a soft landing place for us. We tell that person what is going on as a way of trying to release it.
We ask them to remind us how we have successfully escaped chaos in the past. Because we have escaped it in the past.