I can still suffer a little bit around things having to do with my family of origin, but I've gotten so much better at just accepting and loving members of that family as they are. I accept that I won't in this lifetime have the relationship with my older brothers that I once wished for, but I believe that they love me in their own way.
My father and I found a beautiful closeness as he entered the final season of his life, and that is good enough for me. Because of my recovery, I was able to form a very close relationship with my mother in the years before she passed away, which was beautiful but made losing her so hard.
After five years of estrangement, I now have a loving relationship with my sister, who also has years in recovery. Watching her heal and grow has meant the world to me.
Family-of-origin things are hard. We often avoid these issues because they are so complicated and seemingly insurmountable.
And some of them are. Some things in our families can't be resolved.