Anne Lamott is a wise woman in recovery and a brilliant writer. I love her beautiful quote "I do not at all understand the mystery of grace—only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us." In the Christian faith, grace is understood as a free and unmerited "favor" of god.
I don't really identify as Christian at this moment in my life, but I'm comfortable crediting my own higher power with many of the times I've been touched by grace. I can see where grace has both given me new opportunities in life and changed everything about my life.
Grace has, indeed, met me where I was. Finding recovery was a gift of grace, a beneficial accident.
I wasn't looking for recovery, but someone in my life needed it, and, as a good codependent does, I embraced it in hopes that it would help him. He had no interest in recovery, but I kept exploring, and my life was changed forever.
Sometimes we only see how grace has touched our lives in retrospect. Perhaps we should look for it now.