I am someone who loves, honors, and celebrates Twelve Step recovery despite having a recovery practice that is no longer steeped in it. When people who are more committed to working an anonymous program feel compelled to point out how poorly I am working (or not working) my program, I remind them that the only requirement for membership in my program is the desire to stop acting on my addiction.
Come to think of it, that's true for all Twelve Step programs. When people judge my recovery, they generally judge me for not doing my recovery their way.
I've said it elsewhere and I'll say it again: how I recover is nobody's business except my own. Early in my recovery, I was prone to easily feeling shame and guilt if I didn't do recovery the way that others expected me to.
Shame and guilt were comfortable feelings for me when I started out. As I grew in my recovery and my approach to wellness expanded, I stopped caring what other people thought about how I was healing.
I feel only pride in how I do recovery today. And so should you.