One day you will look in the mirror and see a woman you don't recognize. It will be a very bad day.
You will make the decision to go searching for who you were. You will look back over your past and contemplate where things went wrong and acknowledge what you did right.
You will identify the patterns that ruled and (probably) still rule your life. You will go back and forth on the decision to find yourself again and put various amounts of effort into doing it, but you will be proud of even the smallest steps you take forward.
You will dig a little deeper and try a little harder, and one day you will realize that you have changed a pattern that keeps you from being your highest self, and you will buy yourself flowers because damn right you are worthy. And then one day, you will share your story with another woman who has been where you have been.
Through mutual acceptance and understanding, you will both remember that you are whole and worthy and living examples of how we heal. That will be a very good day.