One of the philosophical pillars of the She Recovers movement is the idea that we have to be supported to find and follow individualized pathways and patchworks of recovery. This was not a concept that was apparent anywhere in my first decade of recovery.
Individuals in or seeking recovery are very fortunate today to have so many different options for embarking on their healing journeys. And as options increase, people from all of the different corners of the recovery universe are starting to understand how important it is to focus on unity over uniformity.
The most helpful thing to do when speaking with a person who is new to recovery from substance use or any other maladaptive coping behavior is to present them with the long and growing list of things they can do to figure out how and where they want to recover. No one group, organization, or program has a monopoly on healing, and we all have a responsibility to share freely about those modalities that might not be for us but may well save somebody else's life.
When we want uniformity, we need to check our egos and ask ourselves why we think we get to determine what anybody else's recovery looks like. We are stronger together, always.