Many years ago, a famous quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, former First Lady of the United States, caught my attention. She wrote, "Somehow we learn who we really are and then live with that decision." That reads to me as a two-step process, but not a process that has a hard stop at either end of it.
My recovery has been all about learning who I really am. What I like, what I believe, where and how I like to spend my time, with whom and doing what.
I'm not done with this process of coming to know myself, and I'm not sure I ever will be. I know I am getting closer, but I am not quite there yet, Eleanor.
As I grow personally, and especially as I age, I continue to evolve and change. Sometimes I move in the wrong direction and need to course-correct.
Regardless of who I think I am in any given moment, I have no difficulty living with who I have decided I am. I know that, ultimately, I am a good human.