You know how sometimes we work so hard to make something happen or fit, and it just isn't working? How do we know when it's time to stop forcing things?
Do we keep trying to jam ourselves into that job where we feel devalued or the relationship where we can't really be ourselves? Do we even want those things that we know can only be ours if we force them to be?
If we trust our gut, we know when the level of energy we are expending is both too much and still not enough to get to the outcome that we think we want. I can never remember if that saying (you know the one) is about trying to fit a square peg into a round hole or a round peg into a square hole, but either way, it's never going to happen, and we cannot will it to.
I've had to step away from a lot of things in my recovery after wearing myself out trying to force them to happen. It was exhausting.
I try not to do that anymore. There are always clues about what is meant for us and what is not.