As individuals, we get to determine what our personal successes look like. Unfortunately, we are used to allowing others to tell us what success looks like.
We become so used to looking for validation from others that we lack the clarity we need to even assess how well we are doing. For example, the great job that we get is only great if the people in our life think it's great, or that wonderful thing we did for somebody else is only of value when other people remark on how wonderful it is.
This is not a fun or healthy way to exist. Each one of us must determine what our success will look and feel like; we are our own barometers of what hits the mark for us as individuals.
We must each be in control of our own recovery. The good news is that becoming stronger at self-validation becomes easier when we think about what success will look like in advance.
Committing to yourself that you will remain sober for one week at a time, and then doing that, is a success. It will also give you the confidence you need to keep moving forward.